Single,but not Lonesome...

As a gal enters into her 20s, parents start viewing their daughters in the bridal get up..though the thoughts are imbibed much before..but 20s is the phase where they really start initiating things, put their thoughts into process more vividly….for the gal she has just started her life on her own..she is flailing to achieve something in life,build a career of her choice and fulfill her dreams.…least aware what she wants in a man of her life..and then the responsibilities, family bla bla…doesnt bother her much…Folks start infusing the thought into the daughter’s mind..well probably there is a positive consent somewhere deep down inside but her dreams ,her ambitions supersedes anything else and the NO becomes more prominent and firm…..Folks little do they listen and the practical initiation of the process starts…talking to friends and relatives for a good match..a well educated, well settled boy from a well to do family for their very eligible daughter flaunting her virtues and hiding her vices..”Relatives” they just wait to line up guys…..
The world beckons …gal ventures out on her path..in search of her dreams, her career ,her profession, her life, her world…starts living life on her own terms…learning lessons of life on her own, taking decisions on her own..all the while having a faint picture of her Mr.Right back in her thoughts…well she has kept her options open but unaware what she wants in the man..may be looks, may be style statement, may be money, may be intelligence,may be social status… not sure, not sure abt anything….obilvious of the fact of whats happening back home…Some fine day she is asked to check out the profiles of some eligible bachelors..with their best potrayed pics and their achievements,family lineage n all…after lots of heated arguments she finally agrees and wantedly/unwantedly checks them out..already having apprehensions as choosen by parents he cant be Mr.Right…but who is the Mr.Right?what should he have in him and what shouldn’t he?..she even doesn’t know…coupla them look smart n intelligent..it moves to the next level..coupla chat sessions,phone calls,…then to long our conversations,work life,personal life,likings,dislkings,hobbies bla bla..if things click a bit more than probably a meet or two,folks waiting for a positive reponse all the while ,all excited for no reason….and then finally everything ends up in a Naahhhhhhhhhh…lots of emotions crushing down,heartbreaks etc..and then slowly things revives to normalcy…with the Anty telling the mom…the guy was best of all….will have to repent to let it go…mom comes up with several excuses saving her daughter and asking to look for few more good proposals and the cycle continues to eternity…sometimes it’s a No from the guy, sometimes from the family and many a times she herself….
Time flows by, the number of proposals coming in slows down…every NO leaves the mother with sleepless nights and the father with stress and tension..poping up more of BP pills..Is the gal still waiting for her Prince Charming????..the fairy tale is over...now if she kisses the toad he wont transform into Prince Charming anytime..not atleast at this life time..so while she waits for the right man of her life she gets busy with her career, fill up her life with friends and fun and she feels complete..thats when she realizes she crossed the tentative 20s,inching towards 30s on surer footing, feeling quiet settled already..but the “Single Status”..the never ending questions…haunts..but what does she want now?..not a raging desire to look for a relationship,not looking for someone to” complete” her or settle her life…the fairy tale has already passed, illusions disappeared..she now wants someone who will witness her life..the Mr.Right should fit into her scheme of things…that doesn’t mean love and romance is dead in her life..but the idea of romance at the 20s is much different..as its all abt going out,having good time, materialistic things..here she is independent,who takes her own decisions..she is looking for a lasting friendship.so how about missing the ” marriage flight”..once secure as a person she doesn’t feel like she has missed out on anything…once she has a career own her own ,its companionship that matters the most.After negotiating a relationship its more important to live life on your own terms.Yes she wants someone to complete her emotionally but not at the cost of her way of living.
Its still love that makes the world go around,but once you have crossed the age bar and the blinkers are off,you see each other for what you are…its all about interesting companionship leading to a more evolved love story……

A Woman's Day--Really !!!!

This has been long I have been trying to put in my feelings and experiences into words in this virtual world of blogosphere...finally I could squeeze in some spare time to pen down a few lines..today being the International Women's Day and more importantly a Sunday...the day I love the most in a week..the day for me and only me, I could manage some time...The day started as usual as a lazy sunday morning... my cousin was at my place..my sis,my cousin and myself had a grand breakfast at 11 treating ourselves...called up my mom, few of my women friends to wish them on this special day..the entire day we enjoyed all the special movies played on this special occassion of Women's Day on TV..our mobiles were flooded with beautiful Women's day messages from our respective male collegues and friends.Most of the time its an wonderdul feeling to be a woman..specially when people around you make u feel how important it is to be a woman...how important a woman is in this world of men. The past week in office had also been wonderful. Many programmes were organized,special treament for for all the women folks at work..flowers,choclates,icecreams,beautiful cards,treats any many more ....it is a feeling of WOW!!!..The sense of chivalry,the respect for women,the social recognition for being a women....its magnanimous.......its simply great..
In the afternoon my cousin left for her place as she stays around 30 miles away from my place, and she has to resume her office next morning...me and my sister had to go shop some of the household things as the weekend was almost getting over...we had to rush and back early as had MTV Roadies lined up at 7, our favourite show...we were walking down the road, as had to pick our clothes from the dry cleaning laundry...i was talkin to a friend of my mine over the phone, with my sis walking by my side...all of a sudden I was shocked by the sight as i turned my face to the hussle goin on on the street.. a teen aged gal, aged between 17-18 screaming at the top of her voice to a guy who was standing shamelessly listenin to her...we din knw wat was really happening..neither people present around were reacting to it...all were spectators to this drama...we passed by thinking,might be a personal fight ..the noise grew louder, we turned back, the girl was furious and even the guy had started manhandling her, my sis couldnt stop herself..even before i could stop her..she was already into it..i was speechless...wasnt able to react so sudden..i could see the gal slapping and yelling at the guy and my sis too had joined her..i rushed in to call my sis back..by then people surrounding that area had gathered around...after too much of tussle, few elderly people intervened and things were under control..by then i was literally shievering, unable to understand what went wrong, why my sis after all jumped into it..i was blank....the guy was asked to apologies to the gal..n shamelessly he did so..... I pulled my sis out of the crowd and walked out of the place.Later on I got to know from her that as we were walkin down the road and i was busy over phone,she had noticed from far the guy misbehaving the gal in the broad daylight,in a busy market area and my sis wished the gal to react back..which the gal exactly did and people around were mere spectators ,she(my sis) couldnt stop herself from getting into it...as she faces similar incidents every now and then on her way to work and back...that suddenly reminded me of my cousin, i called her up just to check if she has reached back safe,thankfully she had....I guess this kind of incident every u and me,every women in our society faces......
Where is the chivalry gone that i was talking about? Where is the respect for women? The feeling of being special,the special feeling of being a Woman subsides and the feeling of insecurity,a feeling of scariness,creeps in you.....and I m left with lot many questions in my mind..........its no more a WOW feeling.............I ended the day with.....